Being the first child and an only daughter automatically comes with a truckload of expectations. Having to be dependable is a quality I developed over time. Growing up with three younger brothers taught me the importance of being available and dependable. It meant being there for my brothers when they needed to own up to something silly they had done they could trust that I’ll broach the topic with our parents tactfully. Then again, it wasn’t just for my brothers but for my parents too, after all, who better to trust to talk the boys straight other than dear big sister – Joanne.
I find that being dependable is a quality that a lot of people possess to varying degrees for a number of reasons whether intentionally or unintentionally and as with a lot of things in life, it comes with its share of highs and lows.
With this post, I’m taking a slightly different approach as I have chosen to hear from two of the most dependable people I know. Abra and Hassan have chosen to share how they’ve had to cruise through the course of dependability and what it means to them both at home and work.
Abra says – “Being dependable is being there when the people who matter need you. I believe that it epitomizes some form of virtue in one’s character. A guiding principle for me is that the measure you give should be the measure you get although holding on to this principle in the society we live is one surefire way of setting yourself up for disappointment.
I believe that I owe it to my friends and family to be there for them. It is making sure that I can be reliable and that those who need me understand that they can trust my presence.
Cons: There are times when I can’t be there for others but it registers in my mind as an obligation and I find myself making extreme adjustments to meet the needs of people who require me to sacrifice my time or other resources. I find it interesting how people find it easy to say no without giving the matter too much thought because for them it is just an inconvenience that can’t be accommodated at the time. Being trustworthy and dependable means that to a large extent I put others first before myself.
Pros: Dependability is a good mark of character. People know your yes is your yes and know they can always count on you when they call on you. Then again, you don’t always get a medal for that, simply do it because it brings you some level of joy or satisfaction.
I have learnt to be dependable because I can and not because I necessarily expect the same from others. It has become a part of my core and because it is something I enjoy doing it is not much of a challenge. For my friends, loved ones and people in my close circle I have a personal obligation to always be there, to be that shoulder people can lean on when they need one.”
Hassan says – “Dependability is a self-taught principle, something that is integral to every area of my life including the work place.
I don’t see being dependable as an inconvenience but as a part of friendship and part of committing to whatever I have chosen to do. Whether it’s dealing with a task, or my colleagues, being dependable means that I will always deliver on my commitment.
Dependability has become a part of my life and has shaped my personal brand. I always ensure that my word is my bond and I don’t let people down.
Lows: People are so used to me coming through for them or helping them through their issues that they find it difficult when I have to deal with personal issues.
When I speak to people about challenges I’m dealing with, the general misconception is that I’ll get through it and I’ll be okay. Dependable people also need people they can depend on when they’re going through life’s challenges.
As a dependable person, I tend to forge closer friendships with people as dependable as I am because they have a strong understanding of the underlying challenges.
Highs: Even though I don’t remember intentionally setting out to become dependable, I wouldn’t trade the quality for anything. It is a quality I apply to every area of my life. In the workplace, for instance, people can trust the work I do which means I do not need to be micro-managed to achieve set targets. The goal is for people to be able to believe in whatever I put my name to because being dependable over time has given them room to trust my judgment.”
I hope you found the experiences shared above valuable. You already know that as much as I love to write, I also love to read from you. What are some of the experiences you’ve had with being dependable or finding dependable people? Do you find it easy depending on people?